Plan C is the new Plan B

Oh, life.

Instead of heading to see Abby for Easter as we planned, Abby came to us. And she’s been commuting between school and home for the past two weekends. I’m still trying to wrap my head around how quickly things can change.

The day after my last post, my father-in-law had a bad fall from a ladder and the world pretty much stopped. I don’t want to go into too much detail because it’s not my story to tell, but basically, he was LifeFlighted to a Portland hospital; the family immediately gathered, Abby coming home on a night train. We knew he had a skull fracture and a brain injury. We did not know what would happen next.

He never woke up, but he gave us all time to come and say goodbye. He passed away four days later, on the eve of Easter. We held his funeral this past weekend. I took Thursday and Friday off from work and went to get Abby. Her boyfriend’s mother took her back Sunday. We’ve had such an outpouring of love and support that it’s been overwhelming. People keep asking what they can do, but the fact is there isn’t anything they CAN do except continue to give us hugs. (Words are overrated because there’s nothing to say.)

I don’t know, you guys. I’ve been so out of sorts all spring and feeling kind of … just over everything. But these events have given me a different perspective. I can get out of bed and it turns out that’s most of the battle.


8 thoughts on “Plan C is the new Plan B

  1. Chris N says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your Father-in law. These random weird life events send me in a tail spin as I question everything that is ‘normal’ or in other words, WTF is this about. One minute he’s on the ladder doing his chores and next he’s gone. I feel for you and your family. I don’t handle things like this well and like you just get out of bed each day and hope for the best.
    Sending virtual hugs{{{}}}}


    • Trisha Walker says:

      It’s very random, but then, everything is, really. I was feeling pretty low about it until Abby said that you just never know what else life had in store for him, had this accident not happened — how perhaps he’d have suffered some worse fate.

      Anyway, I appreciate the hugs. We’re in the acceptance stage, hard as that is.


  2. Linda M says:

    My deepest sympathies to you and all the family. I pray God’s comfort and peace for you all.
    Give yourselves time to grieve and take it one day at a time. Some days are going to be harder than others. Be kind to yourselves! Death certainly changes our perspective and impels us to hold tighter and love more deeply those left in our lives. Sending hugs!

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